60 Ways to Speak Love Using Quality Time

One of the top five love languages for me is quality time. I really love whenever my spouse and I have uninterrupted time that we can spend together. Whether is 30 minutes we get to spend talking while the kids are playing at the end of the day. Or an entire weekend we’ve given the responsibility of the kids to one of the grandparents so we can have an extended date.

If your spouse’s love language is quality time, they want to feel like they are the person you want to be around the most. And when you are with them, they want to feel like you don’t care about anything but what they have to say. The 60 ideas listed below will give you some great ideas of how you can speak to your partner’s quality time love language!

What is quality time?

Quality time meaning in relation to the love languages is when you are giving someone your undivided attention. All distractions are set aside and you are showing your spouse that you are 100% attentive to them. Maintaining eye contact, putting your phone away, not looking off into the distance, and not letting your mind wander are all things you pay attention to if you want your time with someone to be truly quality.

What does quality time mean in a relationship?

This could look like going on a walk, just the two of you, and focusing on what your partner is saying. It could also be sitting together at dinner, looking at each other and talking. Look around the next time you are out to eat at a restaurant. Which tables are filled with people spending quality time together? And which tables are filled with individuals who happen to be eating at the same table? If your spouse’s love language is quality time, they want you to show that they are important to you by spending time with them and using that time to focus on them and nothing else.

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The importance of quality conversation

Some people whose love language is quality time really appreciate quality conversation more than anything. This is when the two of you are talking together without any conflict. You should be sharing your experiences, thoughts, feelings, and desires in a way that is enjoyable to both of you. This might sound like the words of affirmation love language but it is not.

Words of affirmation is more about what we are saying to our spouse. Quality conversation is about what you are hearing and how you are interacting during those talks. When you engage in quality conversation, you are asking questions with a genuine desire to understand your spouse’s thoughts, feelings, and hopes.

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How to love someone whose love language is quality time

1. Cook or bake together
2. Play board games together
3. Find video games you can enjoy playing together or competing in
4. Dress up and eat dinner by candlelight at home or a restaurant
5. Sit outside by the fire and enjoy s’mores or a fireside meal
6. Talk and catch up at the end of the day
7. Read a book together and maybe start a book club for the two of you
8. Turn on upbeat music and have a dance party
9. Turn on your favorite love songs and dance with each other
10. Take a relaxing bath together
11. Plan a themed date night at home or out on the town
12. Look at old pictures and videos together and talk about the memories
13. Go geocaching in your area
14. Watch fun YouTube videos or TikToks and subscribe to your favorites so you can watch new ones when they’re posted
15. Walk around a scenic area like a pond, lake, nature trail, or the mountains
16. Take a class together in the community or online
17. Start a new hobby together
18. Go skiing, snowboarding, or sledding when it’s cold outside
19. Go for a long drive and talk while you’re out
20. Explore where you live or visit and explore a new city
21. Go out on a date
22. Attend a local sports game
23. Try a new recipe together or order from a meal prep company
24. Go to an escape room or research and do one at home
25. Paint pottery you can display in your home
26. Build something for your house from scratch
27. Work on a project in your house together
28. Shower together
29. Fold laundry or do the dishes and talk together
30. Drink wine and paint a canvas together
31. Watch their favorite show or sport with them
32. Put your phone away when you’re with them
33. Try out new coffee or drink shops together
34. Plan a photoshoot, just for the two of you
35. Go to a bookstore and read together
36. Play your favorite card games
37. Do the grocery shopping together
38. Grab ice cream cones or frozen yogurt
39. Arrange for a day that the two of you can spend uninterrupted time together
40. Sit next to each other or be in the same room while you’re working on your own projects, even if you aren’t interacting with each other
41. Show interest in the things they are passionate about and excited to share with you
42. Spend the day together with your phones in airplane mode
43. Face away from any potential distractions for you when you’re out on a date (ie the dining room for people watching, the bar where the games are playing)
44. Join your spouse in doing something they love and be an active and willing participant
45. Plan a vacation, date night, or overnight getaway to go on together
46. Talk about the balance of your work/social/home lives and get on the same page
47. Meet each other for a lunch date in the middle of the week
48. Spend a weekend morning enjoying a leisurely brunch together
49. Participate in a family adventure that is their idea and you might not be thrilled about
50. Schedule a weekly “walk and talk” around the neighborhood after everyone’s in bed and the world is quiet
51. Pick up some conversation starter resources that you can use to initiate conversation and connect on occasion
52. Ask your spouse something about themselves and listen intently to the stories they share
53. Reminisce on memories and moments from your marriage that were happy, funny, sad, or challenging
54. Go for a walk or a drive through the neighborhood where your spouse grew up and ask them to tell you about it
55. Sit on a bench by a pond and feed the ducks frozen peas while you talk
56. Join them in an activity that they would usually do alone
57. Spend time at the end of each day reviewing the day’s activities and events with each other
58. Camp out in your living room or backyard
59. Have a foam dart or squirt gun war with each other
60. Ask them what they want to do at the beginning of the day and spend your entire day doing those things together

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Printable checklist of Quality Time Love Language ideas

Click here to download a printable version of this list, checklist-style. If you or your spouse’s love language is quality time, you can use this to find ways to love each other better. It is written in the first person so your spouse can read and mark things as “I appreciate it when you do these things for me”. The checklist includes a few blank spots you can use to fill in your own preferences or examples of quality time if they are not already included in the list. Click here to grab checklists for each of the other love languages.