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  • June 5, 2017|

Five Summer Activities for After the Kids are in Bed

Since becoming parents, we have had to get creative with our nightly activities, especially if we want to make the time that we have together count. You know that we set aside time for date night once a week, sometimes we get without the kids and other times we stay home to do something after they are both in bed. I know how much of a challenge it can be to come up with things to do at home that aren't just getting takeout or making a treat and curling up on the couch to watch tv, as nice as those things are.

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  • June 2, 2017|

Making Date Night a Habit in Your Marriage Again

Some weeks still go by when intentional quality time doesn't happen, even if I've been thinking about it all week and working to come up with ideas of what we could do together. So I've decided that we need a date night reset, to reevaluate what we're doing and if we have one activity each week that meets our date night standards.

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  • June 1, 2017|

Rooftop Rendezvous – Our New Tradition

At this current stage of our lives, late night walks aren't an option because we have two young children who are in bed by 8pm. We put our kiddos in the stroller, the dog on his leash and go on a walk after dinner most nights, but it's just not the same as going out on our own. There is something about the quiet and cool night air that makes our conversation flow freely and contributes to a deeper connection in our relationship.

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  • May 24, 2017|

How Understanding The Color Code Can Benefit Your Marriage

Do you and your spouse ever have disagreements? Probably not, right? ;) But if you are one of the few people who has ever disagreed with their spouse, it may be because of personality differences. It can be hard to understand people who don’t think like us, but we’re here to provide you will a valuable tool that can strengthen your marriage by strengthening your understanding of your spouse’s personality. Are you intrigued? :) +

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  • May 19, 2017|

Making Date Night Happen with Opposite and/or Busy Schedules

By the time we were both home at the end of a day, we were tired and most date night locations were closing for the day. Finding time for date night seemed difficult, if not impossible. It took us a while to make intentional time together a priority, but once we decided that our date night habits needed to change, it happened. With a little bit of creativity, we were able to come up with ways to make more time for each other, and looking back, I feel silly that we weren't doing those things sooner.

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  • May 15, 2017|

Five Tips for Successful Family Date Nights

Earlier this year I put together a list of fun family activities that I hoped to use for family date night at least once a month. We haven't gone through many of our ideas yet, mostly because it's been cold and we've been trying to keep Emmy healthy and warm. Now that the weather is better and we're able to get out more, we've been doing something fun as a family at least once a week. I take the kids on an outing by myself at least once a week as well. No matter what we choose to do for family fun, going out with two young kids is always an adventure.

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  • May 14, 2017|

Motherhood, I Wasn’t Expecting That…

My role as a mother is so different that I always dreamed it would be. I've watched my own mom, my friends and other moms around me for years and I guess I had put together some sort of picture in my head of what motherhood would look like. Being a mom has been a million times harder than I ever thought it would be and has exceeded my wildest dreams all at the same time. Some days I can't wait for bedtime to get here and others I feel like I never want to hang out with anyone other than my little family. It's a crazy road this parenting thing. I'm so glad that I chose the man that I did to be my partner on this journey.

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  • May 8, 2017|

Buttermilk Pancakes and New Traditions

I've always had dreams of enjoying a big breakfast together as a family every Saturday or Sunday morning. Waking up to the smell of pancakes and eggs on the weekend was one of my favorite parts of growing up. We also had hot cereal every Sunday morning because it was quick and kept us full through church meetings. Unfortunately, rotating church times and our Saturday work schedules over the years have prevented this from becoming a regular tradition in our little family. Then a few weeks ago I saw someone mention that they have one night a week set aside to eat breakfast for dinner and I realized that was the answer to all of my problems!

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  • April 19, 2017|

Why I Miss Our Time in the NICU

It has been seven months since we left the NICU but I still think about it often. Is it weird to say that I miss that place? How could someone miss having half of your heart at home with the toddler and the other half in the hospital with your tiny little one? Those three weeks were definitely some of the hardest in our lives but also some of the best. I cried more tears during those weeks than I have at any other time in my life, and while some of them were tears of anger, frustration or sadness, quite a few of them were tears of joy.

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  • March 24, 2017|

“Do You Want to Have a Cleaning Party for Date Night?!”

Date night doesn't always have to be exciting and adventurous. There was nothing glamorous about our date this past weekend, but we accomplished something together, ended the night with some quality time together and we won't have to spend as much time cleaning every night each week to catch up, so we'll be able to spend more time together after the kids go to bed in future weeks.

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  • March 22, 2017|

9 Practical Tips to Help You Put Your Husband First

What is the mantra of "putting your husband first' supposed to look like when you, as a wife and mama, are in the thick of dirty diapers, temper tantrums, loads and loads of laundry, cooking duties, cleaning schedules, and the like? Here are a few practical tips which I hope will help to paint a picture for you of what this could look like in your own home, and how you can express, in a tangible, visible way, that your husband comes first on your list of importance and priority (second only to God, of course!).
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  • March 20, 2017|

Every Marriage Needs a Little Spring Romance!

Do you sometimes feel like the love in your marriage has gone into hibernation? Like it's dormant and not really everything that it was in the earlier days of your relationship? Spring is the perfect time to revive your love and breathe life into your marriage again! This winter has felt especially long for us as we've adjusted to life with two kids under two years old and tried to keep them both healthy. We haven't gone on very many outings and we went almost two months without a kid free date.

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  • March 13, 2017|

Why You Might Want to Text Your Spouse More Often

I made it a goal this year to send Joe more messages that were fun and nonsensical rather than things like, 'Can you pick up milk on your way home?' or 'Guess who is boycotting nap time again'. I like to share snippets of our day with him, funny little things that Bensen says or a cute picture of the fun thing we are up to. I also like to let him know that I miss him and can't wait for him to get home, not just because 'the toddler won't nap and I really need you to come home and spell me off before I go insane!!' but because like back when we were dating, I enjoy his company and look forward to spending time together at the end of each day.

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  • February 13, 2017|

Couples with Young Children NEED This In Their Marriage

We do our best to take advantage of every moment that we have together, just the two of us, but with two little ones who rely on us, distractions happen and that time together gets interrupted. That's why, because our marriage is important and because we are working to better our marriage, there is one thing that we strive to do often. We make it a priority to spend time away from the kids together.

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  • February 8, 2017|

Why You Need to Check In on Your Marriage on a Regular Basis

Every couple has big conversations before they get engaged and married (I hope)! These conversations involve things like future family plans, financial goals and habits, expectations, etc. But the truth is, no matter what you talk about before you get married, you can't anticipate every situation that life is going to bring your way. It would be ideal if you had a plan for everything going into your marriage, but that just isn't possible. Every stage of life comes with new challenges and although you can plan for a lot of them, the details aren't always in your control.

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  • January 16, 2017|

Family Date Night is Important Too – Ideas for Family Fun

Just as date night is important for your marriage and one on one time with your children is important for your parenting relationship, regular family time is important too! Spending time together as a family builds memories and strengthens relationships. In addition to making date night a priority, I try to make family time a priority as well.

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  • January 13, 2017|

How to Decide What Date Ideas to Include on Your Bucket List

For the last few years, we've put together a bucket list at the beginning of every year. This bucket list is different than what you'd normally picture when you think of a bucket list. Our bucket list is filled with things that we want to do for date night in the coming year. Obviously, there are a lot of things that a couple can do together on date night, so how do you determine which activities to include on your bucket list?

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  • January 4, 2017|

6 Things That Newlyweds Should Do to Strengthen Their Marriage

Being a newlywed is exciting. The memory of your wedding is still fresh in your mind, you've most likely just got back from honeymoon, and your married life stretches out ahead of you.

While you can definitely coast on the joy and fun of your wedding for a while, the newlywed period is also prime time for strengthening your marriage. If you get into good habits now, your marriage will start off on the right foot and you'll be building in strength from day one. If you're a newlywed, here are some ideas to keep your marriage strong.

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  • January 3, 2017|

How to Set Goals for Your Marriage in the New Year

In addition to the goals that I set on my own, Joe and I set goals together to improve our marriage. The first time I talked about this on social media, a lot of people said that the concept of setting goals together wasn't something they'd thought about doing before. So I thought I'd start off the new year sharing some tips to help you set goals as a couple! 

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  • November 30, 2016|

Marriage is Give and Take, or Is It?

I used to think marriage was give and take. It's a phrase used in everyday conversation, especially when talking with those who may be dealing with marriage issues. It's a good concept. You give fifty percent into your marriage, and you take fifty percent from your marriage. But if that's your attitude, you won't be happy for long.

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  • November 15, 2016|

Musings of a Weary Wife and Mother

The one thing that I never have to worry about with Emmy is her safety while she sleeps. We take the appropriate precautions, laying her on her back, not putting pillows or fluffy blankets with her, etc. but any mother will tell you that even after all that, they usually still worry about their little one.

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  • November 7, 2016|

What I Learned About Marriage from the Gilmore Girls

I'm in the middle of watching the entire Gilmore Girls series for the umpteenth time. I finished it a few months ago but wanted to watch it one more time through before the new episodes are released later this month. I also haven't found anything else that's binge worthy on Netflix at the moment. This last time through, I made notes in my phone any time something happened and I thought, "That's a good relationship lesson"! It's funny, because the two leading ladies in the show seem to be spraying themselves with some sort of marriage repellent, BUT I still managed to find nine things that stood out to me as something that could be applied in a romantic relationship!

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  • November 2, 2016|

Three Ways Children Change Your Marriage

When I was first married someone told me that once my husband and I had children we wouldn’t be as close to one another because our kids would be more important than our marriage. I thought this was a weird thing to say to a newly married couple, but I put it out of my head until after we had children. After the birth of my son, two years ago, I remembered what that person had said to us and I really thought about if it was true and I realized our children have changed our marriage but not always in the ways that I thought they would. 

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  • October 30, 2016|

Creating New Saturday Traditions + Recipe for Congo Bars

I had so many plans to get things done last Saturday but the perfect weather and my cute family made it hard to want to be a productive human being. I've been wanting to make these cookie bars for weeks but always convinced myself that I was too busy to take the time. I finally decided that Saturday would be the perfect time and that I could include Bensen in my fun. 

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  • October 26, 2016|

It’s OK to Say No for the Sake of Your Marriage

When I think about boundaries, I think about setting boundaries to protect your marriage from outside forces. It turns out that you have to protect your marriage from within and essentially, from yourselves first. In order to for the relationship to change, the people in it must change. You can't change your spouse, no matter how or what you're trying to change about them. You have to change your own person if you want your relationship to change.

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  • October 7, 2016|

How to Keep the Romance Alive Postpartum

I think every parent out there can agree that the six weeks following the birth of your child are some of the most chaotic, exhausting and rewarding weeks of your life. They are also the weeks when it is easy to let your marriage take the backseat because there is so much going on and your priorities are elsewhere. If you don't make effort to keep your relationship going, before you know it, your kids will be grown and gone and you won't know the person that you are married to as anything more than your partner in parenting. For this reason, I believe that those weeks after you add a new little one to your family are some of the most crucial for your marriage.

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  • September 23, 2016|

Preparing Our Toddler for the New Baby

I was nervous leading up to Emmy's birth because I wasn't sure how he would react to having a sister and not being the center of attention in our home anymore. Change is always going to come with challenges, especially when it disrupts a child's routine and sense of normal. What we did worked for our situation in particular and I hope that at least one or two of these ideas will help your family as well. Luckily, he seems to really love her a lot, she's the first thing he wants to check on when he wakes up and he's always asking to see her. 

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  • September 16, 2016|

Date Night Ideas from the NICU

With a preemie in the hospital and a toddler at home, we have every reason not to go on dates right now, but because our marriage is a priority and we want to make sure we are spending time with each other, we have been determined to make date night happen. Date night is difficult when you're spending all of your time together at the hospital or at home after your toddler is in bed. I knew that because of how crazy life was and how limited our time together was, we needed to set aside time to date each other during our stay in the NICU. Spending a few hours together, uninterrupted and away from both of our kids was just what we needed to reconnect at the end of our long and exhausting weeks. 

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  • September 12, 2016|

How We’re Working Together to Balance Life at Home with Life in the NICU

For me, the hardest part of having a preemie hasn't been the fact that she is in the NICU. The hardest thing for me those first few days was trying to find a good balance between life at home with Bensen, life in the hospital with Emmy, time with Joe and time spent taking care of myself. There were many tears shed and a lot of guilt while I tried to find that perfect schedule that would allow me to take care of each of the most important people in my life. It still takes a lot of planning and intentionality on a day to day basis to make things work, but for now, we've settled into a really good routine that works for everyone based on our current situation.

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  • September 5, 2016|

The Gift Basket That All New Parents Really Need

Now that I've had the experience of becoming a new parent twice, I've thought a lot about what I want to gift all of my friends as they welcome new additions to their family in the future. I'm always looking for a present that they'll love and that will make the transition to parenthood go more smoothly. Whether you are gifting to a couple who is welcoming their first little one or a couple who has already experienced the new parent thing once or twice, this is a gift basket that any expectant parent will appreciate and enjoy!

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  • August 26, 2016|

Baby #2 Pregnancy Update – Hospital Bed Rest

This post was going to be an update about how I'd been put on modified bed rest, what baby girl's room looks like right now and a few other things. Instead, I'm writing this post from a hospital bed, where I'm on total bed rest for anywhere from the next day or two to a couple of weeks. My doctor put me on modified bed rest at my appointment on Wednesday morning because I told her that I'd been contracting and feeling really uncomfortable.

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  • August 23, 2016|

Helping Our Dog Make a Healthy Transition with Baby #2

It's no secret that we love our dog, Howie, and that he has been a huge part of our family in the three years that we've had him. As we've made different transitions in our life, we've worked hard to make those transitions easy for him and keep him as happy as possible. When we moved into our house, when we had our first child and now as we prepare for the birth of our second child, we have always kept his needs in mind to help make the transition as routine as possible.

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