When was the last time that you purchased new lingerie for yourself? I’ve had this conversation with other women maybe more often than a normal person would. There are a few wives who tell me that they’ve been shopping for and bought new lingerie within the last year. But the majority of the answers I receive are that the last time a wife got new lingerie was their wedding. I want to encourage you to buy lingerie on a more regular basis, at least once a year.
If you think that owning lingerie is pointless (it’s only on for a few seconds, after all, right?) or not something that you should buy again until you’ve reached a certain weight loss goal or stop having kids think again. You should buy lingerie that fits you and that you love in your current stage of life!
Any time you pay for date night, attend a marriage conference or workshop or buy something that will help bring you and your spouse closer together (a relationship book, tools needed for a hobby, or something to benefit your sex life), you are investing in your relationship. You are saying ‘this matters to me and I want to work to make it the best that it can be’. That investment is important if you are working toward a long-lasting marriage! Lingerie is just one more thing you can invest in to add a new level of romance to your marriage.
I had a friend share with me that she has a low sex drive. She said that wearing something that she feels sexy in, helps to put her in the mood. It has helped her to work on that side of her relationship with her husband. It doesn’t matter what size you are or where you are at in your self-love journey, you deserve to feel beautiful and confident! When you feel comfortable and confident in your own skin, you are more likely to enjoy being seen and being intimate with your spouse.
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A few years ago, I was just starting a journey to creating a better relationship with myself. I wanted to love the woman who I saw each time I looked in the mirror. I thought that would happen after I lost a certain amount of weight and could fit into my old clothes again. But I quickly realized that I was sabotaging my relationship with myself by having that attitude. I went through every item of clothing in my closet and tossed the things that didn’t make me feel good about myself, lingerie included. There were many pieces of lingerie that were a lot of sizes too small for me. I replaced those clothes and lingerie with things that I loved myself.
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My favorite lingerie company, Mentionables has such a wide variety of sizes and styles of lingerie. Including plus sizes, unlike a lot of other places I used to go to purchase my intimates. I feel gorgeous every time I put on something that I got from their site. Every woman deserves to feel the same way, no matter what she is wearing.
After you’ve been married for a while, it can be easy to fall into a routine. Date night becomes routine, your conversations become routine and your intimacy becomes routine. Routine can be a good thing. But having something new that brings novelty to your relationship has been shown to help keep the spark alive and keep marriages strong. Even if you only pull your lingerie out once a month or a few times a year. Having something that’s a new color or style will spice things up a bit!
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Since I decided to invest in new lingerie and build my collection over the last couple of years. My own self-confidence and the intimacy in my marriage has grown. I went through seven years of marriage, owning the same three lacy outfits, that didn’t fit my body or my style anymore. Never once have I regretted spending money on new lacies. Having pieces in my closet that I love and that fit me now encourages me to wear them more often. I will definitely continue to purchase fun, new pieces of lingerie throughout the rest of my marriage!