Sex and physical intimacy are important pieces of marriage but are often the hardest topics to discuss. I want to provide you with a handful of tools that will help you create more conversation about sex and intimacy in your marriage. When you become more comfortable discussing those intimate moments in your marriage, the moments become more intimate and enjoyable. Do you want to suggest something new to try in the bedroom or express how much you enjoyed something you tried recently? Maybe you’re looking to increase the amount of intimacy you have in your marriage. These tools will help get the discussion started and improve the talk about physical intimacy in your marriage.
The Gottman app has lots of great tools for couples to create deeper connection. They have a “deck” in the app titled Sex Questions. The questions in the deck explore various aspects of physical intimacy in marriage. They will get you thinking and talking about things you may be too nervous to ask, or that you might not have thought to ask. The app also has suggestions for increasing intimacy and trying new things on a mild, medium, or spicy level.
Intimately Us is the app created by Dan & Emily of Get Your Marriage On. The goal is to help you depen the intimate connection you share in our marriage. Under ‘Discover’ you’ll find Conversation Starters with a variety of categories, including intimacy. They also have a Sexploration List, and a piece to help you create shared language to use in the bedroom. Get Your Marriage On hosts regular challenges through the app that are fun as well.
This card deck was designed by a husband and wife, marriage therapist and relationship coach team. It includes prompts you’ve been wondering how to ask as well as some you may not have known you wanted to ask. The team used their years of experience in the field to compile conversations every couple needs to be having to build intimate connection in their marriage.
The conversation prompts in this deck are unique and out-of-the-box. Each question was created to help you connect as a couple, get to know each other better, and enhance the physical intimacy you share. There are 50 spice questions in the deck, perfect for date night in or to spice up your pillow talk. Use code APM10 to save 10% on your purchase.
This book was written by a sex therapist and her husband. They use examples from couples they know and their own married life to prompt deeper discussion about sex and intimacy in your relationship. Five critical conversations are outlined in the book. Those conversations will help you acknowledge, connect, express desire, experience pleasure, and explore your intimacy further.
Don’t let the fear of what your spouse will think or say keep you from asking questions and prompting conversation surrounding the physical intimacy you share. It can feel extremely vulnerable to express intimate desires. Conversations about sex and intimacy can also be hard to have because of how you grew up or the culture you live in. The more you talk about physical intimacy, the more normal it will become. Start with simple discussions and build from there. Your marriage will thank you!