I’ve received a lot of questions lately about conversation starters. A lot of married couples are looking for suggestions to get them out of a rut. They feel like they are always discussing the kids, bills, and other adult responsibilities. Married couples in every stage are looking for more opportunities to connect on a deeper level. They want to get back to the romance and the level of connection they felt when they were dating. I hope that these conversation starters for married couples will help you and your spouse achieve that connection you are looking for!
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One of our favorite companies, The Adventure Challenge, launched two new conversation decks for couples! The Couples Edition of their Connection Cards is perfect for date night and will help build emotional intimacy in your marriage. There are 50 different conversation starters in the deck and it includes great questions like, “What is something you think I’m in your life to teach you” and “If you could pick a memory to re-live, what would it be?” The …In Bed Edition of the Connection Cards includes more spicy conversation starters for an even more intimate connection on date night. Questions in that deck are about the physical intimacy in your relationship. These card decks are great on their own, or paired with one of The Adventure Challenge Books for a full date night experience! Use code APM10 for 10% off any purchase from The Adventure Challenge.
The Dating Divas put together a printable pack of cards with 250 questions for couples. The cards include questions on five different topics/categories. You’ll find questions about intimacy, finances, quality time, romance, and family. I love having a small stack of cards stored in various locations.
We have a stack on our bedside table for a little pillow talk. I keep a few in the center console of my car for long drives. There is a stack in my purse for when we’re out on date night. And I’ll grab a stack any time I feel like we need to connect on a specific topic. These are great conversation starters for married couples because they encourage you to talk about a variety of life topics and situations!
I love how diverse these conversation cards are. The size makes them perfect for taking with you when you leave the house. And if there’s a specific topic you’re wanting to avoid, you can leave those cards out of your stack. No matter where you are in your relationship, you’ll love these conversation starter cards. Click here to grab yours and start using them right away!
Nick and Amy, the couple behind Ultimate Intimacy, have created some amazing products, their conversation starters being one of them! The cards themselves are high quality, colorful, and fun and come in a solid box with cute branding as well. The deck includes over 150 conversation starters covering six different topic areas. Those topics include family, romance, spirituality, finance, intimacy, and miscellaneous. You’ll love these conversation starters! Click here to order your cards and use code APM at checkout for a discount!
The Dear Young Married Couple team has put together two card decks that are game style. The Foundations Card Deck includes 52 questions and tips to help you become more intimately connected with each other. The Realizations Card Deck is a fun game that includes 52 questions to see how well you know your partner. Both decks are a great size for packing with you on a road trip or a date. Click here to grab the Foundations Card Deck and click here to grab the Realizations Card Deck.
The other card deck put together by Dear Young Married Couple is the Sexpectations deck. This card deck includes 52 questions on intimacy. This is a great way to talk about and increase your physical intimacy. Click here to grab your deck.
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This is a connecting resource that I fell in love with before I even owned it! It’s a weekly journal with prompts and tips that have been carefully curated. The Loom Journal team collaborated with leading marriage therapists to create a resource that would be truly helpful for couples! They have since combined forces with Promptly Journals and the look of the book has changed, but the content is the same as it was before and just as great!
Each of you can take time to write your thoughts on the prompt during the week. Then you can talk together about the prompt and your responses at the end of the week. I love the idea of incorporating your discussion into your weekly marriage meeting. You could also pull the book out at the end of your date night activities each week. Click here to grab your copy and start connecting on a deeper level!
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My friends Tony and Alisa from One Extraordinary Marriage have a great book of connecting questions as well! The goal of their book is to help couples connect in the way they did when they were first dating. Do you remember when you first met your spouse and you’d ask all sorts of questions to get to know each other better? I strongly believe that you can never know too much about your spouse. Working through this book only strengthened that belief for me. Click here to grab your copy.
The team at Marriage 365 has put together a truly phenomenal resource for couples! Their Connecting Questions for Couples book is a must have for couples in every stage of life. The way the book is laid out is perfect for tackling one question each day. There is also an index by topic in the back of the book in case you want to have discussions by topic instead of one question each day. Click here to grab your copy.
If you aren’t familiar with Gary Chapman, let me introduce you! Gary Chapman is the founder of The 5 Love Languages. I’ve been recommending the love languages and his conversation starter resources to couples for years! The original 101 Conversation Starters is available in a card pack, perfect for carrying with you wherever you go. And 101 More Conversation Starters comes in a small book format, which is still great for on-the-go.
The Gottman Institute has created an app that you can download on your phone. It’s perfect because we have our phones with us almost anywhere we go. So you’ll most likely have these conversation starters with you everywhere you go. The goal of this app is to help you create new love maps of the knowledge you have about your partner) throughout the course of your relationship. There are all sorts of conversation starters, date night ideas, and other suggestions for connection!
A recent addition to the Card Deck app has me really excited. There’s now a section specifically for date night. These questions are more fun and lighthearted than the other decks. They’re meant to help you connect and get to know each other while you’re out on a date. Definitely, a reason in itself for you to have this app on your phone! Click here to download it to your device.
This is a resource that was recommended to me by another family life educator while I was doing my internship in college. I immediately grabbed the set of questions for couples, but I also really love the date night set. (It doesn’t hurt that it’s purple and has hearts on it, matching my brand.) Table Topics has many other sets of conversation starters for a variety of situations. You’ll find cards for family dinners, road trips, dinner parties, and more. Click here to check out all of the conversation starter options from Table Topics.
Another recommendation I received from my internship while I was in college. This is not one that I’ve not tried personally yet, but have heard a lot of great things about it. It’s a game, but not one that’s competitive. You both win this game! The prompts in this game will help you get to know yourself and your spouse better. You’ll explore your relationship on a deeper level and have a lot of fun! Click here to grab yours.
This is another recommendation that is currently sitting in my Amazon cart, waiting to be purchased. The 200 cards in this set will prompt deep and intimate conversation in your marriage to help you reconnect or connect even deeper. It’s labeled for couples who have been married 10+ years, but I think it would be beneficial regardless of how long you’ve been together. These conversation starters were put together by a psychologist with experience in marriage counseling. There are also sets for families, newlyweds, and dating/engaged couples. Click here to grab yours.
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All of these conversation starters are great for married couples! You should determine which resource is best for you and your marriage. This should depend on the dynamic between you and your spouse. You will also want to consider what your spouse is willing to participate in as well. One resource might be great to start with. And then you can move to others as your connection and intimacy deepen.