Any time I submit an assignment or a paper for grad school, the online portal sprinkles confetti across the screen to celebrate with me. It makes me smile and gives me something to look forward to every time I have to turn something in. That little celebration is super simple, and I don’t gain anything from it other than a smile. Its simplicity has an impact on me and how I feel about studying for school. I’ve started celebrating myself more, every time I submit another assignment, recognizing the hard work I put in and the accomplishment that it is. And I celebrate the bigger accomplishments too, like getting full points on a big paper or passing another class. It’s made me think about how we celebrate accomplishments in our marriage.
Those little celebrations every time I submit an assignment got me thinking about things you could be celebrating in your marriage and how you could celebrate them. This could be celebrating something you’ve accomplished together or celebrating what just one of you has done. I would encourage you to think beyond birthday celebrations, completing another semester of school, or finishing up a big project you’ve been working on together. What if you started finding ways to celebrate the small things in your lives together? I think you would find yourselves connecting on a deeper level. And you’ll be quick to notice the little things your spouse is doing that are truly awesome and worth celebrating! Those small celebrations can change your perspective on your marriage
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Those small things you choose to make a big deal of and celebrate together are going to be unique to you as a couple! In our marriage we celebrate things like a good grade, completing a big assignment, making it through a long day, or hitting another parenting milestone. You can decide ahead of time what things you want to celebrate together, or at the moment declare it time for a celebration!
Pick a song that makes you feel celebratory and make it your celebration dance party song. Whenever you have something to celebrate, turn on that song and dance together. It can relieve stress that built up from a not-so-fun something that had to be done before you could celebrate.
Your spouse might text you about something they’ve accomplished. For example, I text my husband the other day to let him know that after three weeks, I’d finally finished cleaning all of the carpets in the house. Emojis are a fun way to share your excitement and feelings, so add in all of your favorites in response to let them know how excited you are.
Drop off, bring home, or have delivered something you know your spouse would really enjoy, as a celebratory gift. It could be a box of cookies, their favorite drink, or lunch from their favorite restaurant. Thanks to delivery services, this is easier to do than ever, even when you can’t be there to celebrate with them in person.
It feels good when someone recognizes something awesome you’ve done and shares it with others. Every once in a while share something you’re proud of your spouse for on social media or while you’re with your family and/or friends. Don’t be afraid to toot your own horn when you do something great as well.
Write something simple on a sticky note, on the napkin in their lunch, or on a notepad next to their computer. It’s a simple way to acknowledge an accomplishment but it will be largely appreciated.
There’s nothing I look forward to more than spending quality time with my husband. Celebrating something one or both of us have done with a little date is my personal favorite! We might toss a bath bomb into the tub and watch a movie when we make it through an extra busy week. Or maybe we’ll go to one of our favorite restaurants when that person has something small to celebrate.
Celebrating your spouse’s accomplishments using their love language will make them feel even more special! For ideas to match your or your spouse’s love language, read the post linked below.
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I hope I’ve inspired you to celebrate the accomplishments in your marriage more often! Whether you’re patting yourselves on the back or celebrating your spouse, it’s a great thing to do!